Hi, my name is Flavio; I am a de-hypnotist.

The name of my occupation is not simply a new spin on an old idea; it more accurately represents what we actually do. It may be easier to understand this if we start at the beginning.

If nothing had ever happened to you, you would be totally innocent like a happy baby, but you would lack the wisdom of the serious adult you are.

Ideally then, all life experiences should make us wiser, but in practice that is not what happens. It seems that pain hurts more than pleasure pleases, about five times as much in fact, according to scientists. Consequently, we seem to be willing to invest much more energy into avoiding pain than in obtaining any sort of benefit.

The emotional impact of a negative life lesson can be so devastating and painful that we forget, or rather, archive those memories, emotions and lessons learned in a part of the mind where they serve the intended limiting purpose, while freeing everyday thoughts for more immediate concerns....

How to a life you love

Flavio Ballerini, Ph. D.

1. What life would you love to live?

This is a good place to begin: the beginning is a definition of what the life you would love to live looks like to you. In general, an awesome life is awesome because we feel that we excel and succeed in four domains: Relationships, prosperity, health (energy and vitality), and vocation (as in doing work that you love to do and matters to you).

Think about it: if you wake up with a spring in your step, next to a person you love, respect, admire and genuinely want to be with; if you have a satisfactory sex life with that person, and if you can plan your day according to what is actually important to you, instead of basing it on what your income allows you to do, how can you not love that? Add to that the ability to move, run, carry things (such as babies and grand-babies) and the certainty that your contribution to the world matters, for sure you will love that life.    

2. The...