Hi, my name is Flavio; I am a de-hypnotist.

The name of my occupation is not simply a new spin on an old idea; it more accurately represents what we actually do. It may be easier to understand this if we start at the beginning.

If nothing had ever happened to you, you would be totally innocent like a happy baby, but you would lack the wisdom of the serious adult you are.

Ideally then, all life experiences should make us wiser, but in practice that is not what happens. It seems that pain hurts more than pleasure pleases, about five times as much in fact, according to scientists. Consequently, we seem to be willing to invest much more energy into avoiding pain than in obtaining any sort of benefit.

The emotional impact of a negative life lesson can be so devastating and painful that we forget, or rather, archive those memories, emotions and lessons learned in a part of the mind where they serve the intended limiting purpose, while freeing everyday thoughts for more immediate concerns....

How to a life you love

Flavio Ballerini, Ph. D.

1. What life would you love to live?

This is a good place to begin: the beginning is a definition of what the life you would love to live looks like to you. In general, an awesome life is awesome because we feel that we excel and succeed in four domains: Relationships, prosperity, health (energy and vitality), and vocation (as in doing work that you love to do and matters to you).

Think about it: if you wake up with a spring in your step, next to a person you love, respect, admire and genuinely want to be with; if you have a satisfactory sex life with that person, and if you can plan your day according to what is actually important to you, instead of basing it on what your income allows you to do, how can you not love that? Add to that the ability to move, run, carry things (such as babies and grand-babies) and the certainty that your contribution to the world matters, for sure you will love that life.    

2. The...

Hypnotherapy is a form of therapy that uses hypnosis to achieve a variety of objectives. Hypnosis can be used very successfully to uncover the roots and sources of emotional difficulties and personal obstacles. Hypnosis can be used successfully to resolve conflicts between individuals, even in instances when one of them is deceased, or between different aspects of an individual's nature.

Hypnosis can be used successfully to achieve a rapid change in behavior. Finally, hypnosis can be used successfully to bring an individual's conscious awareness in contact with one's Higher Self.

Can you really achieve so much?

Naturally, anyone familiar with the topics alluded to above would be doubtful that such varied and dramatic objectives can result from a single mode of therapy. This reservation is natural when one is not familiar with hypnosis.

Although forms of hypnosis were used in ancient Egypt, over 5000 years ago, in classical Greece, at the famous Oracles, and throughout the middle...

The world is like a gym, and life itself is like a set of weights.

Can you imagine someone going to the gym in order to gain muscle, and then complaining about lifting weights? That would be strange because we recognize that the muscle develops as a result of overcoming resistance to movement represented by the weights. Something somewhat analogous happens in life.

The world is like a gym, and life itself is like a set of weights that continuously opposes our objectives in a controlled fashion so as to promote development without injuries. Each problem we face has three interconnected dimensions – physical, mental and spiritual. Hunger, for instance, is a physicalproblem when it hurts and it may result from poor decisions made in the past; the mental dimension, while encouraging us to question our relationship with the Earth and our need to receive constantly, the spiritual dimension.

We come to this world for the same reason that we go to the gym...

Forgiveness. Probably the single most important tool used for your personal growth and development, as well as relationship satisfaction.

Forgiveness of self, forgiveness of others and allowing ourselves to receive an apology, are all imperative for your successful journey here on earth.

We are humans, we will intentionally, and unintentionally, hurt others and other will do the same to us.

It is from this contrast, from this tension, that we will be propelled to evolve. We subconsciously seek out others who can come into our lives to play a role. This role is intended to cause a sort of internal conflict in which you are able to learn a lesson from. Now, many times we learn the lesson that came with a situation and expect the reward, or evolution, to occur immediately after. However there’s a catch! In order to truly gather all that was meant to be received we must always forgive.

Forgiveness sets us free. Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door leading to a new phase in...

What would happen if you took every person and circumstance in your life and viewed them as lessons? Lessons that needed to be learned before you continue on your journey through life. Imagine that every person who has caused you heartbreak, every difficult situation you have encountered, was really just a part of a level in the game of life. If you think about a video game, it becomes easy to grasp this concept. Before you can pass to the new level in the game you must fully complete all that the previous level requires from you. Depending on the game, the objectives change but one thing remains the same: you know that what you have to do will get you to go up a level.

Well would you agree with me when I say that your acceleration through life will happen with more ease and satisfaction if you knew what you were dealing with? Of course, on a video game you have a score board, or some kind of visual reminder of what you have accomplished, and how much more you need before jumping to...

The short answer is no. You do not need to believe in past lives to receive benefit from hypnotherapy.

As a matter of fact, that is what is awesome about hypnosis. You are enjoying a personal journey into yourself. Your experiences and beliefs will be those lived by you during your therapeutic process.

Our daily busy lives keep us at a lower consciousness level that is somewhat disconnected from our true self. Feelings like anger, hate, selfishness, or just the mere and so-called “stress” takes us through life from lesson to lesson, without leaving us much time for contemplation from a higher ground.

Most individuals believe the state of hypnosis to be a much more unconscious state where you will not have control of yourself. Contrary to this popular belief, the state of hypnosis is a higher state of consciousness that can only be described by those that have experienced it.

The truth is that even in a light or moderate state of hypnosis you can benefit greatly from the...